Its Not Just the Two of You

When two people get married, it not just a marriage between a man and a woman, but a marriage also of two families. With this in mind, get ready to have family members from both sides add their two cents regarding the way you should plan and execute your wedding. There is a fine line to walk when it comes to this input and wise couples learn how to bring their families into their wedding plans without letting them take the whole show over. The Positives When a man and woman decide to get married, they bring a large number of people into the picture with them. They bring family, friends, co-workers and acquaintances. All of these people love you and want to help plan your wedding, particularly your immediate family members. The great thing about having so many people that are willing to help is the fact that you are going to need all the help you can get! Weddings are elaborate affairs that take a lot of smart planning and hard work. Each one of your family members has a natural gifting that you yourself may not possess. For instance, maybe you fiancés sister is an expert decorator or your own mother is a skilled wedding planner. Because they love you and want you to have a great wedding, these people will often volunteer their services' absolutely free! This can take a lot of financial and emotional pressure off you as a couple, knowing that much of your work has been safely delegated to trustworthy laborers. The Negatives When a couple decides to take the plunge into marriage, they begin to plan for their special day almost immediately. Listen closely; they begin to plan for THEIR special day. Your mother may be dead set on having you wear her wedding dress at your wedding, but when it comes right down to it, this is your wedding, not hers. You would be wise to set boundaries for your family members when it comes to advice and personal requests, in order to preserve the vision you and your fiancé have for your ceremony and reception. Sit down as a couple before speaking to your family about wedding plans and decide on the basics of your big day. If possible, choose your colors and location, bridal party and main theme, before you open the rest of the options up for discussion. Your family loves you and probably has no intention of hijacking your wedding day. However, everyone that loves you also has a dream inside of what your big day will look like. Mothers in particular may have certain wishes and hopes as it relates to the ceremony. Try to honor your family and let them know that you appreciate their support, but make it very clear that the important decisions will be made by you and your fiancé. The Conclusion Your wedding day should be one of the best days of your life, replete with the blessings of family, friends and acquaintances. Welcoming your family into the planning of your special day should add to the joy, not take away from it. Setting firm boundaries with your family while maintaining a willingness to listen to planning suggestions will help to keep your wedding personal but shared by all. For more information on weddings, visit http://weddingmicroblog.com and http://familymicroblog.com

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Author: John Parks